In the Destiny Matrix, it is quite easy to learn the mistakes your parents made while raising you or the mistakes you might make while raising your children.
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When your Destiny Matrix is ready, find the light blue number (Vishuddha chakra) and begin your analysis.
Number 1 – The Magician
The mistake our parents made: A manipulative parenting style. Using words skillfully to guide us, imposing their own truths. Shaping us according to their desires under the pretext of ‘I’m thinking of your well-being.’
The mistake we can make with our children: Not taking their opinions into account, acting as if we know better. Not giving them space to make their own decisions and dictating our guidance under the guise of ‘good intentions.'”
Number 2 – THE HIGH PRIESTESS
The mistake our parents made: Not opening up about their feelings, ignoring what we intuitively sensed. Having secrets and mysteries within the family. Hiding important matters from us by saying, ‘Children don’t know.’
The mistake we can make with our children: Belittling our children’s intuition and feelings, brushing off their questions. Being overly protective and not being transparent with them.
Number 3 – THE EMPRESS
The mistake our parents made: Being overly protective and not allowing us to develop our individuality. Creating emotional dependency, raising us with either excessive attention or neglect.
The mistake we can make with our children: Being so protective that we hinder their personal development. Controlling them possessively in situations where we should let them be free.
Number 4 – THE EMPEROR
The mistake our parents made: Applying strict discipline, prioritizing rules over love. Managing their children through the use of power and authority.
The mistake we can make with our children: Being an authoritarian parent, expecting obedience from our children while disregarding their feelings. Forcing our values onto them.
Number 5 – THE HIEROPHANT
The mistake our parents made: Presenting their beliefs and truths as absolute, raising us according to a specific system. Closing off options outside of their own life philosophy.
The mistake we can make with our children: Not encouraging them to think freely, not allowing them to question. Diminishing their individuality by saying, ‘You should do it this way because that’s how we learned.
Number 6 – THE LOVERS
The mistake our parents made: Trying to shape our decisions according to their own desires, fulfilling their expectations through us.
The mistake we can make with our children: Interfering too much in their lives, placing our truths above their choices. Pressuring them with the mindset of ‘You should live the way we want.
Number 7 – THE CHARIOT
The mistake our parents made: Raising us with a success-oriented focus, teaching us that we must win but ignoring the importance of the process. Guiding us to suppress our feelings with the mindset of ‘You must be strong.’
The mistake we can make with our children: Constantly putting them in competition, expecting them to win while ignoring their feelings. Neglecting their emotional development and focusing only on academic or material success.
Number 8 – JUSTICE
The mistake our parents made: Not being fair within the family, making distinctions between siblings or making decisions that we felt were unjust.
The mistake we can make with our children: Failing to provide fairness, sometimes unknowingly being unjust. Ignoring the need to approach them in an objective and balanced way rather than based on emotions.
Number 9 – THE HERMIT
The mistake our parents made: Not providing us with the necessary emotional support, leaving us alone, remaining indifferent.
The mistake we can make with our children: Not showing enough interest in their emotional worlds, overlooking their need to be alone. Acting emotionally distant by saying, ‘Let them figure it out on their own.
Number 10 – WHEEL OF FORTUNE
The mistake our parents made: Completely leaving the control of our lives to fate or external factors. Resisting change by saying, ‘In our time, it was like this.’
The mistake we can make with our children: Not intervening enough in their lives, leaving them directionless with the mindset of ‘Whatever life brings
Number 11 – STRENGTH
The mistake our parents made: Pressuring us, forcing us to suppress our emotions, ignoring our vulnerabilities by saying, ‘You must be strong.’
The mistake we can make with our children: Not accepting their weaknesses, not allowing them to make mistakes.
Number 12 – THE HANGED MAN
The mistake our parents made: Teaching us to always make sacrifices but not teaching us to receive something in return for those sacrifices.
The mistake we can make with our children: Constantly encouraging them to give of themselves but not teaching them how to say no.
Number 13 – DEATH
The mistake our parents made: Not accepting change, not adapting to the new, raising us according to old patterns.
The mistake we can make with our children: Sticking too much to old habits, preventing them from developing in the contemporary world
Number 14 – TEMPERANCE
The mistake our parents made: Being on extreme ends, adopting either an overly strict or overly lenient parenting style.
The mistake we can make with our children: Creating an emotionally or disciplinarily imbalanced environment.
Number 15 – THE DEVIL
The mistake our parents made: Creating dependency, making us feel indebted, using emotional manipulation.
The mistake we can make with our children: Making them emotionally dependent, preventing them from becoming independent individuals.
Number 16 – THE TOWER
The mistake our parents made: Creating sudden traumas, shaking the sense of a safe environment.
The mistake we can make with our children: Upsetting their lives with unpredictable decisions.
Number 17 – THE STAR
The mistake our parents made: Encouraging us to dream too big, leading us to be unprepared for the real world. Or, on the contrary, belittling our dreams and discouraging us by telling us to ‘be realistic,’ crushing our hopes.
The mistake we can make with our children: Raising them to be overly idealistic and disconnected from reality, or, conversely, raising them to be excessively logic-focused, killing their hope and creativity.
Number 18 – THE MOON
The mistake our parents made: Raising us with fears, making us afraid of the unknown, constantly instilling worry in us. Planting doubt and fear in our subconscious with phrases like ‘The outside world is dangerous,’ ‘Don’t trust anyone,’ and ‘You can’t do this.’
The mistake we can make with our children: Belittling their inner intuition, not understanding their fears, ignoring their worries by saying ‘You’re exaggerating.’ Painting a future full of fear for them.
Number 19 – THE SUN
The mistake our parents made: Ignoring real problems, raising us with excessive optimism, not helping us develop the ability to cope with life’s challenges. Or, on the contrary, focusing constantly on negativity and extinguishing the light within us.
The mistake we can make with our children: Preventing them from seeing the real world, making them think everything is perfect, or, conversely, suppressing their joy and optimism, raising them with a consistently negative perspective.
Number 20 – JUDGEMENT
The mistake our parents made: Constantly throwing our past mistakes in our faces, judging us based on our former selves. Teaching guilt instead of forgiveness.
The mistake we can make with our children: Focusing constantly on their mistakes, making them carry their past as a burden. Not teaching them the value of forgiveness and making new beginnings.
Number 21 – THE WORLD
The mistake our parents made: Raising us with a narrow perspective, not allowing us to explore the world. Teaching us to live only within the limits of what they knew, preventing us from gaining experience of the outside world.
The mistake we can make with our children: Keeping them within our own small world, not giving them the opportunity to experience different cultures, people, and ideas. Not giving them the chance to explore the possibilities the world offers.
Number 22 – THE FOOL
The mistake our parents made: Either giving us too much freedom and leaving us directionless, or excessively controlling us, preventing us from exploring. Encouraging us to act without thinking, or, on the contrary, preventing us from taking risks.
The mistake we can make with our children: Giving them too much freedom, causing them to be aimless and unplanned, or overly restricting them, preventing them from making spontaneous decisions and exploring.
